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Can I Set Limits On Tv And Computer Time For My Kids?

Yes you can.

Creating a safe and healthy structure for kids to grow up in is one of your most important roles as a parent.

Creating boundaries, setting limits is a normal part of that.
You won’t let a three year old wander on the train tracks or use a chainsaw. It sounds absurd, but it is really what you do all the time. You create a safe and healthy place for them to grow up in.
TV and computer time is part of that.

Many parents have trouble with setting boundaries when kids grow up, become more vocal, offer more “but they can more” examples.
Parents are tired of constant arguing, and often don’t know what is good for their kids anymore.
Setting boundaries your kids need to work with is just fine.
You will hear me say this many times: you will fight at the boundaries you set.
They will challenge you, it is what they do, to experiment, to learn.
You can set the boundary right at where you will be triggered to explode, where they wouldn’t be safe or healthy when they cross it.
They will challenge you and it will trigger things you don’t want.
You can also set boundaries a long way before that. Where crossing the boundary doesn’t mean you’ll be angry, or they could get hurt or risk their health.
They will challenge you there just as much!

A child will challenge you at the store for candy, at home for pocket money, for tv time, for computer time. And much more.
A teen will challenge clothing restrictions, curfews, (cell) phone use, alcohol, drugs and yes tv and computer time. And much more.

As this article is about TV and computer time: why and how can you set boundaries?
Why?
Because your kids need to see more than a square box, sitting still and without burning the calories they need to. TV and computer time are also filled with programs, games that are aimed at their wallet, more than their education. They are addictive and reduce the ability to concentrate, focus, as it is all a blast of images, messages.
So setting a limit on that is absolutely ok.

Yes, they are in peer groups that watch, play.
So, they will challenge the boundaries you set.
There are always those “but they can more” kids out there, imaginary or not.
It is where your values, your ideas about what is good, right, wrong, healthy, or not, come in.
And they need you to give them those guidelines.
It is how they figure life out, through you, their parents.
And playing with crossing those boundaries, staying within, feeling out what they think fits them.

How you can set boundaries, limits and have fun.

1. Set boundaries pro-actively, explaining why and sticking to the rules consistently, with only exceptional exceptions. When kids know the rules beforehand and why, it is easier to accept them. And they become part of the routine instead of daily battle grounds where everything is up for grabs. Which is exhausting for you and for them. Let them explain why they do want to, listen well. They need to be heard. That is often enough. You don’t have to agree with them. Being listened to is huge for kids and teens, whether they show that or not.

2. Combine setting a boundary with proposing an activity with you (works more often for younger kids)
They will enjoy that activity often more than the extra time on the computer or in front of the TV. Let them tape programs “for tomorrow” if it is so important. They will often forget about those.
Think about what works for them and what you would enjoy too.

3. If they want to play games, watch TV of which you are “not so sure”, you can sit with them and discuss what they like about it. If you don’t agree with the game or program content, simply explain that without getting angry or defensive. Why you think or feel it is not good for them. And why you set the boundary. Offer to help them find, get access to other programs, games that you are OK with.
Explain that peers often boast, and learn behaviors from those programs and games that are not OK for you and for them. “It is not who we are as a family, how we see being with others.”

Kids don’t need TVs or computers in their rooms.
Internet safety is hugely improved when you have the computer in a common room, where you can casually look at what they are doing. The same with TV. It improves your awareness of what is on and going on.
And makes it easier to live up to the rule, the boundary you have set.
And when they challenge you?
“It is not about me trusting you or not. It is about what people try to do that I sadly don’t trust. And it is my job to protect you from them.”

And yes, setting limits, creating a safe environment with boundaries like that is more than fine, it is excellent.

The Use Of Computers And Computer-Related Violence

If the advent of computers has brought the human race an immense improvement in their lives, it is also believed that it has caused issues with regards to safety and privacy. Computer-related violence and threats such as suicides among the youth, kidnapping, sex crimes and among others have escalated at an unprecedented rate.

Since a large percentage of adults of today did not grow up with the technology which the young population are enjoying right now and were not immersed into its use for fun and entertainment, keeping and maintaining their safety is a colossal task. Besides, the mental aptitude of kids this generation allows them to navigate the computers with great dexterity that adults seem to lack. Thus, it is difficult at times without the spying eye of adults nearby, to monitor the websites that children visit.

However, there are basic tactics or approach so that children’s activities on the internet are monitored. Reminding them regularly on its responsible use by spontaneously getting them into a conversation without letting them feel being spied, about the games and other activities that keep them glued on the computer screen is a simple task that will transpire into a responsible use of computers, mobile phones and the internet. To be able to deal realistically with the threats that technology harbor, it is essential that adults need not be caught up in the hype surrounding the mess that the internet brings by being focused and within the realms of reality.

First and foremost, adult strangers with malicious intents do not share or visit a common websites where the children are frequently into. Strangers too, are not equipped with technologic ability to locate children’s online addresses. Thus, it is impossible that such criminals will be able to track down children through their online address to real life address unless vital information is given voluntarily. Furthermore, an online discussion with a total stranger is like talking to a total stranger that we meet every day in the grocery supermarket such as salespersons, shoppers and even police officers doing their routine checks. It is only a matter of letting children know that there are certain boundaries to maintain with regards to how we interact according to social norms which later in life they will independently understand and learn how to negotiate it themselves. Thus it is important to let them know appropriate limits and not go beyond it.

Second, handheld gaming devices and mobile phones, although they can be equipped with internet-ready features, can be restricted only to the basic calls and texts features where call barring or call restrictions apply. Moreover, a parent can have his children’s phone line restrict incoming and outgoing calls and limit it only to pre-programmed contact numbers. Social networking on the other hand is one corner where they can express themselves among their groups and where parents too can get involved to be able to monitor the activities that their children have been doing outside and inside the school and on the personal side of their life.

We are besieged with internet-related crimes because of the unscrupulous use of the services that technologies provide. However, technologies are not bad at all because they only become bad with the way we utilized such product of man’s ingenuities. Indeed, the key to its safe use is through the responsible establishment of limits and guidance by mature and responsible adults.

Online Poker – How To Stay Safe From Rigged Games and Cheats

You don’t have to go far in the online poker world to find a discussion about rigged games, inaccurate deals, collusion and cheating. It seems that every forum, site or blog you visit will have people arguing over how prominent cheating is in the online games, and whether the poker sites themselves rig the games to their advantage. So let’s look at both sides of the argument, and get to the bottom of this once and for all.

Are the poker sites crooked?

The first thing to look at are the poker sites themselves. From the “big boys” like Full Tilt Poker, and PokerStars to the smaller sites like Bodog or Cake, they all have one thing in common – they make their profits by taking a rake from the games. That means they take a small percentage of every dollar bet on the site, so they make a profit no matter which players are winning or losing on their tables. The more players who come to play poker on their site, the more they make so it’s in their interest to keep those players happy. Lose the trust of the players, and a site will go bust which is why the major poker sites invest millions in security measures and software to ensure their games are as fair as possible. So the answer is quite clearly no, poker sites (or at least the large, well established ones) are not crooked, and in fact they are very active in keeping the games fair and preventing cheating. They also invest heavily in software to ensure that their deals are fair which brings us to the next point…

Is the dealing fair?

In a casino card room a human dealer shuffles and deals the cards. In online poker, the software does this which is another aspect of online poker often attacked by opponents who believe it to be rigged. The argument goes that since a random number generator (RNG), which is the software used to shuffle the cards, can never be truly random (due to the way a computer works) then it must be rigged. However, there is a very simple way to prove that online dealing is very fair and that is to look at statistical analysis of hand histories. PokerStars, having recently dealt their 50 billionth hand, gives an excellent sample size, and checking it proves that the odds of getting dealt a particular hand online is just the same as getting dealt that hand offline. In other words, the software that shuffles and deals the cards on the big poker sites does its job very well, and deals a fair game!

The other side of that argument however is the fact that, since it’s a computer shuffling and dealing the cards, and since computer’s cannot generate a truly random shuffle, it could be possible for a talented and determined individual to predict cards before they are dealt and gain an edge. Well, that brings us to our third point…

Do people cheat at online poker?

OK let’s make one thing clear from the start – yes, some people do cheat at online poker! But wait a minute, here’s another shocker for you… some people cheat at offline poker too!

The plain fact is, whenever there is a potential for profiting there will always been unethical people who try to cheat the system. Whether offline or online, certain people will try every trick in the book to gain an edge, and whether offline or online the card rooms will always do whatever they can to stop them.

The fact is though, that it’s actually much easier to catch cheaters online than offline. The card rooms use sophisticated software to track every hand played by every player on their site, and that software can quickly and easily detect players who are cheating. Whether they are colluding with another player, or somehow using “inside information” the software will pick up on it very quickly, and when a cheater is found their accounts are immediately closed.

So while there certainly are people who try to cheat, it’s really nothing worth worrying about, which brings us nicely to my final point.

Whether people cheat or not makes no difference!

OK, I know that sounds illogical but please let me explain. If you are a solid player, winning on at your usual stake then why would you care if someone else is cheating? You’re making money whether someone else is playing by the rules or not, so what difference does it make to you? Can you do anything to stop them? No, you have to leave that up to the poker sites so don’t waste your time worrying about it – spend your time working on your own game so you can move up in stakes and start earning even more!

Similarly, if you’re a losing player it really doesn’t matter if anyone else is cheating. One way or another you’re going to have to improve your game if you want to start winning, so that’s all you should be worrying about. Read some books, watch some videos, and practice, and leave any thoughts of rigging or cheating to the programmers working behind the scenes at the poker sites!